Brain Scans Show Married Love Can Last01/14/11
FRIDAY, Jan. 14 (HealthDay News) -- Remember the intensity of
falling madly in love? Ever feel like the passing years, the
never-ending housework and the demands of raising a family and
working have quashed your infatuation for your spouse?
New research using brain scans suggests some married couples
hold on to that passion and romance for decades or more.
When gazing at a photo of their beloved, the brains of couples
married 10 or more years who considered themselves "intensely" in
love with their partners lit up similarly to scans of newly in-love
The 17 study participants weren't just happily married, said
study co-author Arthur Aron, a professor of psychology at Stony
Brook University in New York. These were spouses who couldn't keep
their hands off each other even though they'd been married for more
than 21 years, on average.
"They told us things like, 'We drive our friends crazy. We're physically all over each other,'" Aron said. "We're talking about people who have this intense connection, huge amounts of physical liveliness and passion. This is the sort of thing people thought was impossible or crazy. Our data suggest it's real."
The study was published online recently in the journal
Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience.
Study participants had answered an ad that asked: "Are you still
madly in love with your long-term partner?" Researchers screened
them using several questionnaires that asked about their sexual
frequency (an average of 2.2 times a week) and to what degree their
spouse was the most important person in their life and how their
body responds when they're close to their spouse.
The 10 women and seven men then underwent functional MRI while
looking at a series of photos that included the object of their
affection; a close, long-term friend; a long-term acquaintance; and
a shorter-term acquaintance.
Brain scans showed the ventral tegmental area and dorsal
striatum lit up when participants looked at their spouse's photo.
Prior studies have shown those dopamine-rich regions of the brain,
which are associated with reward and motivation, also light up in
couples when they first fall in love, as well as when people snort
"These people are not just kidding themselves. They seem to be having the same experience as newly in-love people," Aron said.
Long-term, madly in love participants also showed more
activation in regions of the brain associated with maternal
attachment and pair-bonding, Aron said. Sexual frequency was
associated with increased activity of the posterior hippocampus, an
area implicated in hunger and craving.
Yet long-term marrieds differed in at least one substantial way
from the newly married. Areas of the brain associated with
obsession and anxiety lit up less than in scans of new couples.
Instead, brain areas associated with calmness were more active,
Robert Epstein, a research psychologist in San Diego, Calif.,
who specializes in love and relationships, expressed some
skepticism about the findings. The study involved only a small
number of participants, and researchers may have overreached in
their conclusions, he said.
Because participants were measured at a single point in time,
the study may suggest that it's possible to fall in love again,
rather than show it's possible to maintain that "new love" for
years and years.
Relationships can go through phases, he said. Happiness tends to
dip when couples have children. As the children grow up and leave
the nest, some couples experience a relationship rebirth, which may
be what's happening with the couples in the study, he said.
"We don't know whether those people were continuously, intensely in love," Epstein said. "What often happens in relationships is people are intensely in love, then things go downhill. Then the kids grow up, they have a second honeymoon and they can re-experience that same intense love. It's not a continuation of those new feelings, it's a re-enactment of them."
And long-term couples who consider themselves relatively happy
and satisfied but not necessarily madly in love don't like to hear
about couples who still have a burning desire for their partner, he
"One of the ways people feel good about themselves is to compare themselves to others, so this isn't a message people want to hear initially," Aron said. "Even for my wife and I, it hit us a little hard."
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