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FRIDAY, March 11 (HealthDay News) -- People who attach more
value to their possessions may be less secure in their personal
relationships than those who put less value on material goods, a
new study reports.
Human beings need to feel secure, and a sense of security can
come either from material goods or from supportive relationships.
If people do not feel loved and accepted by others, the researchers
pointed out, the importance of material items rises.
"We conducted two studies, and the basic finding in both is that if you make people feel interpersonally secure, they'll place a lower monetary value on possessions," said study author Margaret Clark, a professor of psychology at Yale.
"I think people consciously know very well that they don't need everything they want to acquire or have. They don't need to be told that. But, they may not be aware of why they do this," she said.
"Humans are social creatures with vulnerabilities. Close relationships affords protections. For examples, infants wouldn't survive without other people. But material possessions also afford protection and security. Humans need food, clothing and shelter to survive. So, it takes a mix of things to make you feel secure. But, if you heighten one source of security, people feel less concerned about the others," she explained.
To confirm this theory, Clark and her colleagues from the
University of New Hampshire and the University of Geneva, conducted
two studies. The first included 185 people between the ages of 18
and 71; 70 of the volunteers were male.
Participants were randomly assigned to a group that was asked to
write a paragraph about a time they felt supported or to a group
that was asked to write about a pleasant experience at a
restaurant. Then both groups were asked to place a monetary value
on the blanket on their bed.
The group primed to feel supported placed an average value of
$33.38 on the blanket, while the other group valued the blanket, on
average, at $173.80.
The researchers then controlled the data for two extreme answers
-- one man in the supportive group wouldn't provide a monetary
value for his blanket, and an "outlier" in the restaurant
experience group who valued his blanket at $10,000. After adjusting
the figures, they found that the group that had written about being
supported placed an average value of $33.38 on their blanket, while
those who recalled a pleasant restaurant experience thought their
blankets were worth almost twice as much -- at $66.49 on
Since a blanket is such a personal item, and one often equated
with security, the researchers wanted to see what would happen with
a more generic item not associated with warmth and comfort. In this
study, 98 people (30 of them males) with an average age of 21 were
randomly placed in one of three groups. Each group was asked to
unscramble 30 sentences, 20 of which were neutral in content. The
remaining 10 sentences varied by group.
One group was asked to unscramble sentences using secure,
supportive words, such as "hug," "love," "closeness," "commitment"
and "comfort." Another group was asked to unscramble additional
sentences filled with positive words such as "happy," "merry,"
"festive" and "victory." The final group had to unscramble 10
additional sentences with neutral words, such as "boat," "book,"
"shoes" and "fence."
The participants were then asked to rate the value of the pen
they had used to complete the task from 25 cents to $9.75. (This
was done "in the context of a supposedly separate study," the
researchers explained -- an economics student who had earlier given
all the participants a pen with the university's logo as a gift for
participating in the research asked them how much they would charge
him to buy the pen back.)
The group primed with security-related words such as "love"
valued the pen at $3.23, while those in the group primed with
positive words like "victory" valued it at $4.11. The neutral group
placed the pen's value at $4.18, according to the study.
Results of the study appear in the March issue of
Journal of Experimental Social Psychology.
Clark said that these findings could help experts better assist
those with hoarding issues or people who compulsively shop. And,
she said that it can help in day-to-day living too. "If you
understand what lies behind other people's impulses, you can better
come up with a strategy to tackle that. If you have a spouse who's
buying too much, instead of arguing about spending, a compliment
might work better than pointing out how you don't need that item,"
"The take-home point from this study is that life satisfaction involves a great deal more than the acquisition of possessions," said Richard Morrissey, director for the Center for Psychological Services at St. John's University in New York City. "Things provide us with a sense of security, but if we feel secure in relationships, we can place less value on stuff."
Morrissey said therapy can help people change the way they're
thinking and aid them in understanding that they don't need to
purchase things to feel better.
"It's like the classic glass is half-full or half-empty scenario. Two people can look at the same situation and one looks at it in terms of what they don't have, while another sees the same situation in a different way. Don't measure life in a pessimistic way. No one knows what the future will bring, so it's not irrational to think the next day will be a good day," said Morrissey.
Learn more about the association between security, money and
happiness from the
American Psychological Association.
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